How to find true love? Pick someone who is compatible with your character and that can last the distance (not based on lust, looks or age).
How do I find true love
To find a person to love is easy, but how do I find true love? A soul mate that will be by your side until death; that takes a little more effort. True love is a love that withstands the test of time, a couple whom have been together for decades and now nearing their end but still in love and supporting each other is our definition of true love.
This advice is from a spiritual viewpoint, matchmaking sites may offer much more practical help.
- Make sure you really want to be in a for-ever relationship, such as married. Sounds silly, but some people may be forced into it.
- Find one or several persons which appeal to you, you don’t need to feel anything special, magic or no magic feeling make little difference (where to find? see here).
- Get the person(s) details and consult Vedic/Chinese astrologers to have your charts read for compatibility at the very beginning of this new love relationship (this is not crystal ball gazing, and not fortune-telling, it only matches your karmic characteristics).
- If all ok, then pick the most compatible or the one you like the most and get to know that person very, very well before any commitment. A wise man gave this advice, “find a partner from our village”. Well, the old dude had wisdom. In the short-term we can tolerate many differences such as culture, religion, food, etc; in the long-term those differences will cause problems. It’s only natural we grow and change, but we want to make sure we grow closer and change for the benefit of the other.
- Be honest with yourself, don’t expect to like all their characteristics as no one is perfect. But as long as what you both want matches, then love can develop (if it has not already). If you sense something wrong, trust your intuition…it’s not good in the long-term to follow desperate whims.
- Date until you are ready for more commitment.
- If you really want a successful partner, then set them free to be what they wish, learn to trust their love for you.
- Both of you must focus on something higher, perhaps some form of spiritual practice or a master , or even starting a new family if that’s the most important thing in your life. It must be something which you both are willing to sacrifice a little comfort for since every relationship will have some degree of fireworks. If one party wants a child and the other does not, then problems may arise.
- Your priority to each other should be secondary in your relationship, just something mutually beneficial for your life’s journey. If you focus on each other…you will see too much fault which will eventually get to you both. If we focus on something higher like spiritual practice, we tend to not see little things, this prolongs love; even builds it as we see the divine in the other person. Spiritual couples tend to focus on God first, this actually makes them help the family even more because they see God in all – including their spouse and children.
- A little distance makes the heart grow fonder. You both should have some space, some time away from each other, or even with each other but doing something noble, like on a spiritual retreat or helping others.
- The rest is easy, develop your noble human qualities; patience, love, compassion, trust, etc…thats what the relationship is for. As you grow together in wisdom and mutual respect, you will become a model of hope and inspiration to all your friends and family members.
